I've had a long weekend reading self-help websites... maybe you can tell. :)
I've been thinking about purpose.
Here I am, in Japan, doing a job I enjoy. I'm much happier with it than the one I held in London. So generally, happiness is up.
I don't believe everyone has a single goal they are "meant" to do as their life's work - becoming president, or ending cancer. I think that people have different things that make them the most fulfilled, and a life spent well is a life following that fulfilment. If that leads to such a
BHAG, great.
So, my thinking turns to me. What should I aim for. No, not a goal. What will (or does) drive me to be most fulfilled?
I'm a guy, so girls will come high on the list I guess. Not "girls", but a single girl who you like deeply, for beauty and mind, to share (both ways) the sparkly, wonderful, uplifting parts of discovery on this round soily thing we all live on.
Also, the love of my family. Miles away, but happy to natter about "things and stuff" with an aim to quietly communicate "we're here, don't worry" while chatting about the little things in our ongoing daily lives.
Things make me happy, yes, but fulfilment is a slightly different animal I think.
Tim Ferris (Since atheism has grabbed me, and I need a new spiritual leader) suggests that life "purpose" doesn't exist; you are born, you die, so try to enjoy it while it lasts. In his book, he wrote something that was very interesting to me. Happiness isn't the goal in life (since you can get that by stupid videos on
YouTube or a cold
Maxibon), but excitement. Excitement happens when you are growing mentally, feeling new things, breaking old boundaries. Enlightenment on page 52. Well worth the cover price.
Happiness wobbles around, for me, Christmas and New Year, up, Flight home, down, and lots of sub fluctuations within that. It's too variable to feel if you're on the right track. Excitement should be your compass.
It sounds as if I'm a bit homesick, which I am, but my point is different. When you're stuck for what to do now, if your compass is happiness, you look around, find something fun and close, and do that. With excitement, you pick somewhere new. Growth.